After knowing that being successful is a learnable skill, I became an information junkie. I read books, blogs, listened to podcasts, watched inspirational videos, met people, tried few things myself and what I have come to know about being successful is this.
“Success is having time to do things that you want, when you want, where you want and with whom you want.”
Let’s break down this sentence for better clarity.
1. Having time:
Think about it. If you don’t have time to do what you truly want in life, would you be happy? No matter how successful you are, if you don’t have time to spend time with your family, will you be happy? Will you be happy if you don’t have time to meet your best friends?
2. Do things that you want:
In our day to day behaviour, we only do things we want. We behave with our children as we want, we eat what we want, and we buy stuff that we want. What would happen if you had to do things that you don’t want to do? Yes you might earn a lot of money in short term but in long term, you’ll be dying to do things that you want and not what others want.
3. When you want:
Imagine you want to learn how to play a guitar. Would it make sense that you control your learning appetite and postpone learning guitar for 10 years? Let’s take another scenario. You want to help poor people but you keep on making excuses about lack of time/ money. Would you feel happy if you are told that you’ll be able to help them only after 10 years?
4. Where you want:
Would you be happy if you had to relocate for a job and stay away from your family for 3 or more years? Imagine if you had a choice to choose the city and the office you had to work on your own terms!
5. With whom you want:
Imagine you are working for a company where you have a terrible boss sucking the life out of you and your working space is full of co-workers who are constantly playing politics in order to being you down. What if you had a full choice who to work with and you are the one recruiting the best people who truly love the job they do.
In life, you might have to let go of any of above things but it should never stop you from finding all the good things that life has to offer. If you ever meet a person who calls himself successful, ask them if they have all the above things in their life. And if you ever call yourself successful, measure not your success only in terms of money but in terms of all the things that money cannot buy because Success is having time to do things that you want, when you want, where you want and with whom you want.