What are you afraid of?

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Friends, sitting in my balcony this beautiful rainy weather, something was disturbing me. I went a bit deeper into my feelings as to what was troubling me and I found that deep inside, I was afraid of few things. Things which might go wrong and things I might fail at.

These were disturbing me from fully enjoying the present moment. But then, I came across a quote in the book ‘The 4-Hour work week” by Timothy Ferriss. And it said:

“I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.” – MARK TWAIN.

Man! How true is that? There no better source for an advice than an old man telling you through his life experience.
This about it friends, 99% of things we worry don’t happen. Why are we spending our time in such things which might never happen?

Time to chill my friends. Whatever your dream is, keep working on it because what you are worrying about right now might never happen.

Biggest mistake of my life

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Friends, what’s the biggest mistake you have made in your life?
I’ll tell you mine.
It’s the constant fearing that I’ll make one.
Think of this for a minute friend. We spend so much time worrying about making mistakes that we forget to master our work. And in this process, we delay our work.
But remember one thing; time is much more than money. All those money lost will be back to you but you won’t find that time once lost. So stop fearing about making mistakes and do a lot of work.
When you put out a lot of work over there, you will gain experience and experience my friend, is much…much better than waiting for things to get perfect.
Remember finally, “The greatest mistake you can make in life is continually fearing you’ll make one.”

This is what Success looks like.

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After knowing that being successful is a learnable skill, I became an information junkie. I read books, blogs, listened to podcasts, watched inspirational videos, met people, tried few things myself and what I have come to know about being successful is this.

“Success is having time to do things that you want, when you want, where you want and with whom you want.”
Let’s break down this sentence for better clarity.

1. Having time:
Think about it. If you don’t have time to do what you truly want in life, would you be happy? No matter how successful you are, if you don’t have time to spend time with your family, will you be happy? Will you be happy if you don’t have time to meet your best friends?

2. Do things that you want:
In our day to day behaviour, we only do things we want. We behave with our children as we want, we eat what we want, and we buy stuff that we want. What would happen if you had to do things that you don’t want to do? Yes you might earn a lot of money in short term but in long term, you’ll be dying to do things that you want and not what others want.

3. When you want:
Imagine you want to learn how to play a guitar. Would it make sense that you control your learning appetite and postpone learning guitar for 10 years? Let’s take another scenario. You want to help poor people but you keep on making excuses about lack of time/ money. Would you feel happy if you are told that you’ll be able to help them only after 10 years?

4. Where you want:
Would you be happy if you had to relocate for a job and stay away from your family for 3 or more years? Imagine if you had a choice to choose the city and the office you had to work on your own terms!

5. With whom you want:
Imagine you are working for a company where you have a terrible boss sucking the life out of you and your working space is full of co-workers who are constantly playing politics in order to being you down. What if you had a full choice who to work with and you are the one recruiting the best people who truly love the job they do.

In life, you might have to let go of any of above things but it should never stop you from finding all the good things that life has to offer. If you ever meet a person who calls himself successful, ask them if they have all the above things in their life. And if you ever call yourself successful, measure not your success only in terms of money but in terms of all the things that money cannot buy because Success is having time to do things that you want, when you want, where you want and with whom you want.

How to know if you are on right track

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I was confused. I was sick. I was tired. I didn’t know what to do. I was trying hard. I was trying really hard working on my dreams. And yet I was failing. Falling flat on my face every single time.
But then, I got a breakthrough. I got a great response from my audience. People loved my seminars. They gave excellent feedback. My sessions were helping people. They felt connected. I was happy.
But as we all know, life is never a straight line. It’s always full of ups and down till we die. And now I am sad again.
And therefore, I am holding in my hand, Chris Guillebeau’s 1st book, THE ART OF NON-CONFORMITY. And he wrote,

When you look to yourself instead of anyone else for answers, you are on right track.”

And man, he’s so right.

While I was upset and looking for answers, I wasn’t looking for answers from anyone else. I was just thinking and letting my conscience answer me. It felt so right after reading that quote from the book.

What about you? Who are you looking for answers to?

My advice, look within.