Dreams are good for night but what works wonder for you is actually day dreaming. YES! Every legend in the world was a day dreamer and day dreamers are known to have a vision which could not be seen by people who are awake but not dreaming big enough. When you have a dream big enough to scare you, you might feel temporary fear but that feeling you get when you take action anyhow no matter what, cannot be matched with any other feeling in the world. And when you have a dream, following things happen which help you get there fast.
Success comes with a focus. But focus in the wrong direction leads to frustration. And FOCUS in the right direction can lead to a career of your dreams. That’s what I preached around 25 students who were gathered for a Spoken English course. I visited them to deliver a lecture on “How to develop your Strengths and skills”. The 45 minutes interactive session was an energetic one with everyone actively involved in the exercises. Here’s a small glimpse in the below pic about the session.
Ask any average person what you want from life and they will say they want a big car, a luxurious bungalow and big shopping list. Ask a truly mature person who is happy with his/her life and they will answer, “I want to be happy”. The difference between these two is that the former will be more interested in material things whereas the latter do wish for more but are happy and fulfilled with their lives. And the main reason for the former category so much interested in things is also the reason for most of the people on the planet who are not happy with their lives and that is – COMPARISON.
Comparison with others is the single most important factor we are so eager to acquire material things. Lets imagine two scenarios to understand this idea better.
Suppose you are living on an island. You have all the basic necessities fulfilled but no luxuries. How would you react? Would you ever think of buying a great furniture or that great piece of painting unless it’s your passion? You would never because even if there people around you, all of them would be living with the minimum requirements. And moreover, you’ll be happy.
Now, imagine you come to live from an that island into a big city. You’ll see people buying branded clothes, using latest gadgets, driving latest cars. Slowly, you’ll think of an expensive alternative to what you are using. You don’t need it yet but you think that it’s cool to have that thing as everyone around is using.
But feeling the need of comparison for expensive things is not as bad as the comparison of non-material things. As for instance, people may compare their children to other children in the neighborhood, a father of a girl may start worrying about her daughter’s marriage if every girl around them gets married at her age, a young employee might compare himself to his co-workers who are earning more than them.
Even though everyone does it, it is not necessary that we should do the same if it makes us unhappy.
In short, it has become the routine of our society to ask, “Everyone’s doing it, so why aren’t we?” But it happens only in case of things that don’t play a bigger role in determining the happiness of your lives. No one asks such questions when they are unhappy with their lives that why are we doing it? Even though everyone does it, it is not necessary that we should do the same if it makes us unhappy.
Life is not a race. Everyone is thinking about themselves. So why are you thinking about them? Live your own life. Make your rules. If people think you are crazy, let them think. Nothing big is ever achieved by being normal.
So whenever you feel dissatisfied with your lives, feel grateful for what you have and ask yourself. “Am I comparing myself with anyone?”
“What to do want to be?” I often ask this question to people and the answers I get are very interesting. There is no fear in people when deciding what they want but problem arises when it comes to taking action. They freeze. They just don’t know what to do, where to begin or whom to ask for advice. So they stop. And slowly, they become habituated to not taking action. And when people hear advice about how they can become what they want to be, it is overloaded with information everywhere. This leads to lots of confusion. The main problem here is people needs simple solutions to their problems. Hence, they need something they can easily start with with very little effort. And the good news is that today, I have a tip for you to become what you want and that too a bit faster.
Act like you are already one.
Yes. It’s that simple. But wait, it’s not the only way, it’s one of the way to speed up the process. Let’s imagine two different scenarios to get better understanding.
First, Imagine yourself thinking everyday to become the person you want, daydreaming about that famous personality enjoying their lives. What happens? You focus on what they have and what you don’t. And the more you think of them, the less you think of yourselves.
Now the second one. Imagine that you already have what you want. What happens? You forget about other famous people and think that you have what you want. Plus, you act like them. Now your behavior changes totally as you have taken some responsibility, your attitude changes, the way you dress up changes. Even when you meet people, the way you talk is now according to the successful person you have imagined yourself to be right now and hence, people start looking at you differently.
One of the ways I have done is that I printed my business cards as if I am already successful. Then I met some of the people in that industry and I presented myself. They really admired the card and the way, I designed the card, I had to behave now accordingly with great respect and responsibility which i did and then I turned back to see how confidently I approached them when I had that newly designed business card.
The only way I increased my chances of getting ahead is simply by taking this simple step. So here’s my question to you. What do you want to be? Whatever it may be. Act like one.
People, these days want everything. They want to have a rich lifestyle, they want lots of money, they want to do less work, they want quality time to enjoy but one thing they don’t want to do. It’s working hard. Working hard for their dreams and never accept failure. but that is not the one thing I am talking about. The main reason which stops you from living the life of your dreams is the lack of awareness. Lack of awareness about the beautiful life ahead when they work for themselves, about the sense of purpose they have and the feeling they get by acting on that purpose, about the joy they get by helping others. Most of the people complain to me that they don’t love their job. I then ask them what’s their plan ahead. And they say, “What can be the plan? We have studied this field so it’s obvious we have to stay here only! What to do? Now it’s too late.” And I am like shocked when a 25 year old says that it’s too late. Oh man! C’mon. If you surf the internet for useful things rather than the useless apps, you’ll find thousands of people double your age having started a business and are wildly successful at it. It’s a shame that we in this age of technology are fully aware of all the latest applications which are no use to us but we are not interested in trying to find the life which we are proud of. How can people surrender themselves at the age of 25? It’s like they are breathing but are already dead. Chills run throughout my body when I think of how they’ll be spending their entire life. So what can you do now to live the life of your dreams?
There’s only one thing you need to know and that is – Believe that you can have the life of your dreams irrespective of your education, locality or skills. Skills can be learned if you are determined enough. If you look at the people around you and ask them – you’ll get plenty of them doing the work they love and have no correlation with their educational degrees. Don’t let this ignorance get in the way of life of your dreams.
Are you ready to live the life of your dream?
Often in life, we are desperate to get ahead in life watching other successful people. Then when we are motivated enough, we act on the inspiration and forget it after sometime. We then wonder why are we not getting our ‘aha’ moment. We wonder when will we get that idea ball rolling and make some progress. We wonder why are we stuck where we don’t like? But then after all these, are we asking ourselves right questions? Do we take a look on our life and see are our actions matching our intentions? It is at this stage that we should ask ourselves a question that will determine the rest of our future. Yes, one question is all it takes to make a difference in your life.
Are you curious enough?
You see, everything that we need to know for us to be successful involves learning. If we do not learn, we’ll be stuck at where we are now forever. And curiosity plays a much bigger part in our learning process.
Entrepreneurs should gather most possible knowledge about their field from as many sources as possible. And if you are not curious enough to learn, you’ll not make enough effort to learn and will learn only when you want to. This is embarrassing. When you are curious, you read articles, newspapers, blogs, listen to podcast, watch videos and attend events related to your field of interest. And how do you find all of them? By being curious. How? Whenever you read an article, there is always a link below it suggesting you another similar article. You then read that article, then another, then another and it keeps going. You might also contact the author out of your curiosity and land up visiting their websites. After few days you come to know that the same author follows another big authors of your interest and you start following them too. And then you come to know that a major event is happening in your city related to your field. You attend that and might end up meeting someone useful. But it all happens when you are curious enough to learn. So here’s my question to you.
Are you curious enough to get ahead in life?
I have something very important to say. Are you currently in a career that you hate badly? Do you have a job that sucks? Do you go to work everyday waiting for those eight hours to end? Are you not getting enough time for your friends and family? Then may be you have a problem almost 80% of people have. And that is, choosing a career you hate just because you studied that particular subject for three or four years. Of course there can be other problems but this reason is the biggest of all. You see, we mainly choose career just because our best buddies went for it or our parents wanted us to take it. Very few people have a choice to select the career of their choice and even very few out of the few have an understanding as to why they are choosing a career.
Just because you spent 4 years studying a subject doesn’t mean you have to spend the rest of your 40 years SUFFERING the same.
Throughout the school, we are taught about how to remember names and formulas but we are never taught about the importance of choosing our own career. This about this: You select a career without any interest in it. You pass the exam any how and then struggle to get a job. Once the time passes beyond some months, you start getting frustrated and are ready to take whatever job that comes your way no matter low salary they pay. And the employers take advantages of this knowing there are hundreds available in line if you reject the offer. Then you anyhow pass few years in it learning new things but soon, the job becomes routine. It’s the same boring activity doing daily. You are fed up with the life and then you wonder that now nothing can be changed and you have to pass your whole life like this.
Feels terrible right? Trust me, people do behave and think this way. They think they are powerless once they have selected their career and spent few years working on it.
Now imagine someone telling you have a choice to start working on a new career on side and if you are passionate enough, you will soon be working on your passion in few years. But it will take commitment from your side. Will you commit? Of course you will. Why? Because someone has assured you that life will be easy once you believe. But this is where a problem lies. We easily believe someone else but do not believe our heart. Your intuition is always trying to tell you something. Just listen to that inner voice from inside. And the best way to do that is to do the work you love in a spare time you get after your job. Just do anything that you love even for 30 minutes daily and get lost in it. It’ll take you to the road ahead once you start doing things you love daily. BUT, you have to start.
So here’s my question to you, “Will you start doing that activity daily which you always dreamt of?”